Has anyone ever noticed that as people we make judgments so quickly? As we go throughout our day we should pay attention to what we notice about people. From what I have observed we see the negative first. We always see what someone doesn’t do. Be it at home, the workplace, your relationships, and with your coworkers; we acknowledge the things that they aren’t doing far before we acknowledge what they do do (<–Chandler Bing moment ha!). I know from what I have seen people tend to over react when they think that they are doing more than someone who shares the same responsibilities as them or when they assume that a person isn’t doing enough because again they share the same responsibilities. In the home it could be a partner thinking that they do everything and their partner does nothing. In the workplace it could be a coworker that thinks they are picking up all the slack of another coworker that isn’t doing enough. However, we don’t take into consideration what the partner or coworker is actually doing. Maybe they are picking up your slack in an area that you aren’t realizing. Maybe that person is doing more than you think that they are, but not broadcasting it for recognition. Perhaps that person is going through something and isn’t realizing that you feel a burden on what they may be lacking in. That person could be assuming that they are doing enough because of the things that they are doing in the areas that you aren’t recognizing. We notice the negative before we notice the positive. My suggestion is that we start looking into what people are doing before we make a big stink and over react about things that they may not be doing. By all means if there are relationships in your life where we feel that we are taking the brunt of the responsibilities it should be acknowledged and discussed. However, we should take the time to look at what someone does do before allowing ourselves to be so bothered by what we think they aren’t doing. Try to look into the positive along with the negative. It will lower the stress and anxiety we feel, as well as assist in bettering our relationships.

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